So, this is something I've thought a lot about before, but today it really came to the front of my mind. Why is it that us ladies always end up seeing the guy movie out when we really want to see a new "chick" film?
Somehow we give in and agree to see our boyfriend's/husband's/brother's/father's choice of movie instead. Even if we hate scary movies or excessive violence we still end up at those movies when all we really want to see is a cute couple fall in love.
Sure, because that's what our guy wants we give in and go. But why doesn't he ever give in to what we want to see? It seems to me that there is a disproportionate amount of girls giving into movies they don't want to see and rarely the other way around unless it's a birthday present.
I'm not complaining too much about my situation because my husband will see pretty much anything and I try to be reasonable about my requests, but still it can be hard. I see a lot of my friends have similar struggles. Guys need to suck it up and see a cute couple hold hands and kiss, it can't be any worse than girls sitting in a theater watching bodies get blown up. We all have to do things we don't want to do sometimes.
And, guys, if it's that mushy just cover your eyes and plug your ears like I do with excessive violence.
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I always find myself picking the movies I no my boyfriend would rather watch instead of a chick flick that iv been wanting to see its almost like im to intimidated to say hey were going to my movie tonight.
maybe we hate chick flicks more than you hate our movies. It would make sense, since ours are good and yours suck.
or it could be that males, averaged, have a more confrontational personality than females and are less likely to compromise. So the fairer sex is doomed to suffer because of their cooperative nature. How can there be a just god?
*That other comment was deleted to fix a typo.
Six, good theories, but still no excuse for guys being jerks about it. If men really care about women, then they should do more to please them, including watching lame chick flicks, or just finding a balance between them. These are all just my thoughts of intrigue.
Yes. A tale as old as time. What women think men should do and what men think men should do are often at odds, as is the reversed situation.
Personally I think women rely too much on the mind reading abilities of men. Men can't be held responsible for not knowing what women don't express. That whole, "If you don't know what you did then I'm not going to tell you" mentality is not helping anyone.
However, in the end, I think it is mostly just a product of our different natures and cannot be perfectly resolved.
I lucked out big time. My husband usually picks out a movie he thinks I would like to see. I think he realizes I grew up in male dominated home and I have seen more than my share of killer thrillers. however if we do end up watching some machine gun crazy show he will cover my eyes and ears for me :)
One thing guys should keep in mind, they are going to get more "action" on a date if they watch a chick flick instead of blood and guts.
Six, I agree that more women should say what they are actually thinking. It's a rule in my house actually. If I say it then take it at face value. So, I either speak up or suffer the consequences of my own actions.
Kathryn, I'm glad you lucked out. I think I did too. Although, my husband will watch anything so that works in and out of my favor. He'll watch chick flicks with me, but then also want to watch horror and sci-fi movies. I usually just let him go see those alone though. It really can work out if there is good communication.
And thanks for saying what you did about "action" because I wasn't sure if I should, but now that you did, I'm happy about it.
I'm sure most men are somewhat conflicted over getting convenience "action" because Depp and Pitt are unavailable.
You're basically saying it's porn for ladies. You dun like when we watch our porn, dun see why we'd like it when you watch yours.
Six, it's not pity action at all and it's not just in place of some other stud.
Girls are turned on by a guy that does nice things for them, like see the movie they like. They enjoy a guy that will treat them like they're more important than the newest action flick. This is how that works, not how you described.
Women are not visual like men, therefore they are not so visually stimulated sexually by a hunk on the screen. Unlike when guys watch porn. So, in the end it's not at all the same. However, guys could learn a few things some ladies would like in the attention department by seeing what the guys do in these movies.
Well, that makes sense, I suppose, but I dun understand why all the leading men are so fawned over then. Couldn't any shlub do the romantic stuff in the movies? Movies aren't real, though, females, so you should really get over it.
The leading men look good because we all have our ideals, even if it's not reality. And people wouldn't show up to look at ugly people play the parts. Attractive guys are how girls imagine prince charming.
Action movies aren't real either, so you guys should get over that. For all us movies allow us to escape reality and imagine what could be. For guys that's a world with crazy guns, explosions and fast cars. For women it's a nice romantic guy that adores here. Two sides of the same coin.
I didn't mean get over liking stupid romance movies, I meant get over thinking men in reality should act like they do in stupid romance movies. Men don't think the world should work the way it does in action movies. It's a little more obvious why it can't, but I think romance movies are about as impossible as action movies.
I guess I am a lucky girl! My husband enjoys chick flicks as much as I do. He always tells me that all chick flick don't have girl writers and that they are funny!
I dislike violence and horror films. My husband like those a lot. But he watches other when I am not with him
Well, it's different for me. I actually like more guy films than chick flicks. I mean some can be really good, but if someone approaches me and asks what I would rather watch between X-Men and In a Better World I'd probably go for X-men. Yes, I'm sure there are amazing chick flicks.... they're just not my type.
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