Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Is she hot??? No really, is she?

So, I noticed this blog article some friends shared on Facebook this morning. It was completely fascinating about the role men people in the low self-worth women carry around with them. Read it! It might open your eyes to some things you didn't realize about yourself and how we can all do a bit more to make it better.

I'm so blessed to have a great and patient husband. He never makes me feel worthless or wants me to feel inadequate the way I am. I know I'm not perfect, but he's okay with that and loves me anyway. After over 5 years of marriage my perspective of myself has shifted to a better place. I'm still insecure and doubt my value constantly, but I'm doing much better now.

I do have one fatal flaw though. I pick out really obscenely attractive women and then ask my husband if he thinks she's hot. When he refuses to answer or says no I keep pushing him. I want him to say she is just to reinforce my own belief that I'm not good enough. Rarely will he ever even say another woman is attractive. I find this an incredibly supportive behavior of his. I on the other hand am horribly dangerous to my own worth.

I participate in these self-fulfilling prophecies because I don't think I'm worth being loved or cared for by someone so wonderful. I don't think I'm easy enough to live with or put up with. I feel as though if I'm not making him happy 100% of the time I'm not enough of a woman. This isn't true, it's impossible.

Just think about what you do in your own lives to destroy your own worth and stop doing it. Men who make you think that way about yourself aren't worth your time or attention.

Post Oscars Celebrity Encounter

So, last night we went to our local grocery store to pick up a few things. Near the end of our little trip we saw Josh Cooke. He plays Ben Coles on the TV show Better With You. This is just happens to be one of our new favorite shows. I was a little giddy and excited to be seeing a celebrity in real life. He was totally dressed down. He looked like he'd just come from a game of pick-up basketball or something. His fiance looked fantastic though. They were cute.

I was just surprised to be more starstruck by him than the huge celebrities I had just seen at the Oscars. It was just strange seeing some one out of the blue I guess rather than at the Oscars where I expected them to be.

Life in LA sure is interesting!